Normally the therapy is spoken in danish, but for those couples who might have other backgrund and are more fluent in english, I am offering the therapy in english, which i speak fluently.
Why choose couples therapy?
Making the choice to go to couples therapy can feel like a very big step. It involves admitting that things are not perfect in your partnership, which is often tough to do and scary to admit.
I’ve outlined some common issues that indicate that a couple could potentially benefit from seeing a couples therapist.
1. Trust has been broken.
One of the most common reasons for seeking couples therapy is the need for help in overcoming a major breach of trust. Perhaps it was infidelity in the form of sex; perhaps it was an emotional affair; perhaps it was a series of lies. In any case, the rebuilding of the foundation of trust can often be helped by establishing a forum in which both parties are free to express their vulnerability.
2. Arguments are getting more frequent.
Do you notice that the rhythm of your day-to-day life is shifting to feel more conflict-oriented? Maybe they are all “small” arguments, or maybe the blowouts are huge and leaving a lot of drama in their wake. Either way, it’s the pattern of the increase that is important, which could indicate significant problems under the surface that aren’t really being dealt with.
3. Communication is poor.
Maybe overt conflict is not the problem, but you constantly feel misunderstood or ignored. Or maybe you feel like you don’t even have a good idea of what is happening with your partner emotionally as of late; he or she might as well be a stranger. Often, one of the most tangible outcomes of couples therapy is an increase in communication, and a major improvement in its quality.
4. Something definitely feels wrong, but you’re not sure what or why.
5. There is something you want your partner to know, but you’ve been unable to tell them.
Sometimes the beauty of therapy starts with the room itself: It can become a safe and supportive place for you to bring up things that are difficult to talk about in other settings.
6. You have gone through something devastating that is changing the way you connect with each other.
Many couples go their separate ways after the heartbreaking loss of a child, for instance. Other times, it’s long-term unemployment, a health crisis, or turmoil within one of the partner’s families of origin.
7. You feel stuck in bad patterns.
There is no limit to the number of patterns that partners develop in day-to-day life. Maybe a dysfunctional and unsatisfying pattern has been growing between you and your partner for years now. The longer a pattern sets in, however, the more energy and time it will take to change it. Best to start early.
8. Emotional intimacy is gone or deeply diminished.
9. Physical intimacy is a problem.
Sexual issues can be both a symptom and a cause of relationship problems. Sometimes the change is obvious and frustrating — a couple goes from frequent physical intimacy to almost none. Other times, it’s a gradual freeze from being fulfilled by each other sexually to barely being satisfied. Sometimes there is more overt conflict, with one partner expressing frustration, a partner constantly being rejected. Whatever the issue, a couples therapist can help you start working on it.
Why choose Hanne Kirkegaard as couples therapist?
You are very welcome to choose me as your couples therapist.
I have many years of experience as a therapist. During the couple therapy I will give you new insight about you self and the patterns and provide new tools, which can rebuild your relationship.
Couple therapy prices for one session (90 min.): 1475 kr.
Elkjærvej 36, 8230 Åbyhøj (Aarhus)
Jeg er medlem af Dansk Psykoterapeutforening (MPF) og LFS (Landsforeningen For Spiseforstyrrede & pårørende). I LFS.dk er jeg ligeledes officiel sponsor for foreningen.
Hanne Kirkegaard Psykoterapeut
29 82 19 11
”Følelser er som faldskærme – de virker bedst, år de er udfoldet”.
"Jeg vil gerne hjælpe dig til udfolde de følelser, som fylder I dig – uanset om de er positive eller negative!"
Hanne Kirkegaard arbejder som psykoterapeut, gruppeleder og foredragsholder.